November 30, 2014

Surviving the Sunday Night Blues

I had to look back through all my previous posts to make sure I haven't already posted something along these lines yet....and I'm surprised that I haven't because I struggle with the Sunday Night Blues so often myself.
I think collectively Sunday is so depressing because simply it's the final night of the weekend and we can literally feel the precious hours slipping away, just as our freedom is, before Monday morning rolls around. No matter how much you love your Monday plans, Sunday can be a pretty depressing night. I've developed a few tips on how to beat the Sunday Blues that I thought I would share.

  • Get things done early! Trust me I understand how lovely it is to sleep in but when you have an Aggi whining and growling and licking at your face to get you up and out plus the sound of early-morning construction right out your window, sleeping in too late isn't really an option. I'm not saying leap out of bed at 6:30 ready to start your day, I'm saying don't set an alarm but do get out of bed some time before noon otherwise you'll feel your day is wasted. (Oh and if you have a dog and they're trying to get you up, if you don't open your eyes sometimes they'll go back to sleep themselves! #lifewithdoggies) 

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  • Get out! We all have days where we don't get out of our pajamas and watch endless reruns on TV eating chocolate chips right from the bag. If you want to avoid a bad case of the Sunday Night Blues, don't plan on this schedule for a Sunday. I suggest getting out for a walk in the morning, with a certain furry friend maybe?, walking to your local Starbucks for coffee, walking to 7-11 for a donut, anything to get you out! Today, for example, I walked Aggi and when I came back Mom and I went to the mall. This sort of leads into my next point....
  • Don't stay out too long! Believe me, Mom and I both know everyone has a laundry list of chores to get done but if you save them all for Sunday and decide to stop for lunch and drag your feet choosing which lettuce for your salad that night at the supermarket you won't get home until 3:30 or 4 and you'll feel like you have no time to relax and get everything you need to get done, done.

  • Get your work done before 5 PM! At that time it's beginning to look a lot like night and if you work after that or worse, start your work after 5 you'll definitely feel overwhelmed and like your whole weekend went by waaay too fast and the Sunday Blues will hit you like a truck. 
  • Don't let your diet go to hell! By this I don't mean 'diet' in terms of 'trying to lose weight on purpose so I can fit into my ____' I mean diet as in what you eat during the week. If you're a salads and fro-yo girl, don't pig out on pizza and McDonalds and Dairy Queen and 3 Starbucks' in one weekend! I'm not saying don't treat yourself, have pizza every Friday if you want (I do) and drink a Starbucks in the morning but don't go overboard. Especially on Sunday you want to slip back into your routine so Monday doesn't seem so harsh--eat a nice baked potato and salad for instance if that's your diet. If your diet is McDonalds and pizza normally well go for it and RIP to your bowels(might I suggest prunes?) 
  • Take time to yourself on Sunday evening! Take your furry friends for another walk as the sun sets, take a dip in the pool, try a new hairstyle, call a friend, read a book, take a bath, do all of the above. (Write a blog post!) Just take some time to unwind and calm down.

The Sunday Blues didn't hit me as hard today and I think it's because I, subconsciously, followed these tips. I also laughed a lot, don't be afraid to laugh at yourself, laugh with others, laugh for no reason! (Okay you may want to have a reason to avoid stares....) My Sunday was actually a pretty good day (despite misplacing my homework folder, having to re-type a 3-page paper, and working on my Lit presentation). 

What are your tips for beating the Sunday blues? Let me know below or anywhere really. Stay beautiful butterflies! 

November 27, 2014


Happy Senseless Turkey Murder Day! (As Phoebe would say that is) For the rest of you....Happy Turkey Day (one day late for me)! I hope you get to spend wonderful time with friends and family. I'm thankful for my crazy family, my even crazier friends, and the amazing opportunities afforded to me living over here in Manila. What are you thankful for?
Our Thanksgiving family this year
November 25, 2014

Vom Fass

A new store recently opened in Mom and I's local mall (SM Aura), Vom Fass. 
November 22, 2014

Understanding Anger

Perhaps the title should read "letting go of your anger" (if you're singing "Let It Go" in your head at this point I thank you for not singing it aloud). Everyone gets mad at someone/something but to harbor that anger is very dangerous and actually hurts you more than it hurts the person. 

Now, I can't tell you that you should "just let it go" or that I have some miracle cure that will instantly make you understand how to set your anger at someone free, because I don't. Truthfully, I still harbor angry thoughts about a few people and situations in my life--but understanding this anger and learning how to process it is a great step in beginning to move on from it. 
In my own experiences, when someone is angry they're usually not simply angry, there are underlying feelings that are emerging through the anger like hurt, jealousy, or betrayal. Sometimes even love. Harboring resentment over something definitely means you still care about it, even if you don't want to admit that. The first step in this long process would be understanding what you're feeling and why you're feeling it.

I'll use a very personal example. I am so angry at my stepmother that I feel like I could punch through a wall when I think about her. She's poisonous, she is unstable, I don't trust her, and I worry about her effect on my father. I am so angry I could spit. Or cry. She has caused so many problems that I really don't want her in my life at all. This being said, I won't let myself detach completely because of my father and, to a degree, my brothers. I love them and I want to see them and, unfortunately, it means seeing her as well. (Don't get me wrong, if it ever reaches my breaking point, I'll have to stop seeing all of them because of her but right now I love them too much to let her ruin it.) 

I spent a while living somewhere very near to hate when I thought about her until I realized her presence in my mind was crippling me so much I couldn't function. I also realized, in addition to my anger, I am feeling hurt because of the way she treated me, I am betrayed, hurt, saddened, and fucking PISSED at the way she treats my dad, and I'm angry that I can't do anything about the situation. Understanding why I'm feeling this way is the first step in letting anger go.
(the presence of these gifs helps neutralize my anger as I write)

Now, I can't claim that I'm not angry at her anymore. Honestly I still don't want to be around her at all and I'm not anywhere close to forgiving her, but now that I understand why I'm angry I can begin working on not worrying about the anger I'm feeling, putting it out of my mind and putting myself at ease. 

Moving on from the personal and into the more general, it's a very difficult thing, to release the anger you've harbored for a long time. But understanding why you're feeling what you're feeling, maybe even discussing it with someone you trust, is a great place to start. I'm not an advocate for the "forgive & love everyone" life method, mostly because I'm not sure I can forgive certain people. (I'm pretty sure I'll be 80 years old and still feel the anger flare up when I think about my stepmother.) But I am a major advocate of the understanding & reasoning approach to life and anger. Talking it out can really help you release the bottled up feelings, and if you don't have anyone close you can turn to--you could try a therapist, they're quite beneficial, you could write a letter to Dear Abby, and, there's always little ol' un-solicited-advice-giver me. 
And here's some more unsolicited advice: 
Don't listen to naysayers when they tell you that what you're upset about is inconsequential or not important. 
Don't feel bad if you can't release the anger at all
Do try to understand why you're upset--and connect with the feelings you're feeling other than just the anger 
Do let it out! Scream, yell, cry, throw a pillow, hit the pillow, shred the pillow--anything you have to do to let the feelings out

Have you had to deal with anger at someone? Were you able to forgive them/the situation? If you haven't forgiven them, do you think you are able to? What are some of your methods of dealing and understanding your feelings? As always, feel free to comment or talk to me through any of my varying methods. 

November 13, 2014

Shake That Bass

Today Celesty tagged along and watched swim practice as she had nothing else to do. It wasn't terribly dull for her, she had her laptop anyway, and Thursdays are a short practice: just a warm-up and then relays. Relays are always fun. 

November 9, 2014

How to Say Goodbye

Being a member of an international school community has many perks including meeting people of all different backgrounds, learning lessons you wouldn't necessarily learn about in a US classroom, and celebrating more school holidays. But there's also a downside. 

If you ask these international school kids, 90% have moved countries more than once, 63% three or more times (completely made up figures  but you get my point) and when you move around that much as a kid, it doesn't tend to stop as you reach your high school years which means either detaching yourself emotionally from your friends or learning how to face several tough goodbyes over the years. 

Last year I had to say goodbye to Shiv, a close friend that moved into my life from Sri Lanka and out of it to Brazil. Over the years I've said goodbye to many including Anaya, Oisin, and Louis, to name only a few. 
November 5, 2014

The Inspiration Board Dilemma

Credit for both the beautiful board and the picture goes here (xx)

I stumbled upon the inspiration for this post as I was flipping through some very Pinterest-worthy Inspiration Boards, trying to find some inspiration myself.

I've been struggling lately under the mounting pressures of schoolwork, not to mention trying to keep any semblance of a social life together, plus this lovely blog that has always been a passion of mine so it didn't feel like work. Now, I'm not trying to make excuses or come off really whiney--everyone has to face stressful situations, especially my fellow high school members can relate to exactly what I'm going with, but all this pressure and stress has made it difficult to think of inspired blog posts to share with the world that's not just dead space and so...I went looking for inspiration