October 23, 2014

Why Being Told "Your Eyebrows are So On Point!" Isn't Necessarily a Good Thing....

Well actually...the title should read: Why My Reaction to Being Told "Your Eyebrows are So On Point!" Wasn't a Good Thing.

As nearly every girl (and many guys) will attest, eyebrows are MAJORLY important. They're basically an accessory you can never take off that need constant attention. They're like little, hairy children. So when anyone, literally anyone, comes up to you and says "Your eyebrows are so on point!" You basically have a meltdown and cry and want to thank them for the rest of your life. 

Exhibit A: might as well be actual footage of my reaction

Well recently a couple people came up to me and complimented my eyebrows and this was exactly my reaction. I'm not saying getting excited about receiving a compliment is a bad thing, quite the contrary actually!

My over-the-top, completely flabbergasted reaction got me thinking: yes I should be happy that they gave me a compliment, because duh compliment=niceness=happiness=happy dance, but to be so....surprised that this compliment was given out of the blue was what triggered this particular bout of over-thinking.

As people we need to give more compliments! I'm not saying that giving compliments should be fake or you should just say them to say them, you need to actually mean them, but we need to be freer in saying them! Not just to our friends and families either, but to that girl standing behind us at Starbucks who is wearing that skirt that you love or the guy sitting next to you on the subway train who has been sketching for the entire ride and his design is totally sick.

Everyone has been conditioned to either a) laugh off a compliment and then follow it up with a return compliment or b) be completely surprised and deny the person's compliment....before complimenting them in return. This isn't totally wrong, polite modesty is a good thing but learning to accept a compliment with grace is a beautiful thing that has, unfortunately, become a rarity.

I believe we need to get better at both giving and receiving compliments, they're basically little tiny pieces of joy that you can give out forever and ever! Every compliment should send a smile dancing across your face, whether or not it's from your Mom (and it does count even if 'they're family' and 'they have to say that'), your best friend, your boyfriend, or a total stranger. 

Along these a compliment does not include whistling at a person as they walk by, doing the 'once-over' eyes so many times they notice (and especially if you keep doing it), yelling 'hey beautiful/gorgeous/good-lookin' etc. There's a definite difference between complimenting somebody like "I love your skirt" or "That band on your shirt? Yeah, they're my favorite" and calling out "Yo beautiful look over here!" Learn the difference butterflies, everyone deserves respect.

To recap: give compliments like candy, graciously receive compliments, and respect everybody. Got anything to add? Drop a comment here or on one of my social medias.

Stay beautiful butterflies. 


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